20 RELATIONSHIP RED FLAGS YOU SHOULD STOP IGNORING NOW
Have you ever felt like something is wrong or missing in your relationship? Or that you partner is hiding something from you, or you are just not happy in your relationship. Chances are your intuitions are right, and something is wrong with that man/woman.
Here are 20 red flags you should stop ignoring in your relationship now.
THEY ARE ALWAYS RIGHT
We know this guy right? The one who can do no wrong, the one who is always right. The mistake we make is to justify this kind of behaviour and find excuses for them. There is no excuse for chauvinism, you need to get out now.
THEY ALWAYS PUT THE BLAME ON YOU
We also know this guy, he is related to the first guy. It’s called a relationship because there are two people involved. Therefore, it’s impossible for only one person to be responsible for all the arguments and fights and misunderstandings. You shouldn’t put up with this behaviour.
THEY DON’T LIKE YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY OR VICE VERSA
If your partner does not like your friends and family or your friends and family don’t like your partner, then there’s something wrong with them. Perhaps you can’t see what’s wrong with them because you are blinded by “love”.
Sadly, this is a big red flag many people choose to ignore, if more than 2 or 3 of your family and friends don’t like your partner, you need to check what’s wrong with your partner.
Another red flag is they start isolating you from your friends and family all in the name of spending time with them, you need to run out the door and not look back. That’s a controlling behaviour.
THEY DON’T FORGIVE
Is your partner someone who likes to keep records of past mistakes and remind you of them? It’s a big red flag. I know we all make fun of our partners with something they have done in the past, it’s only okay if it’s a once in a blue moon thing, if it’s becomes a normal and regular thing, it’s absolutely not okay.
There is a name for that, it’s called emotional blackmail.
YOU ARE THEIR DIRTY LITTLE SECRET
Having been a victim of this myself, I can assure you it feels terrible. When your significant other keeps you away from their friends, or family, or don’t take you out where people you both know might see you together, it feels terrible. I mean they don’t come out and tell you directly that you are their dirty little secret, it’s their actions, their words. Is your significant other telling you to keep your relationship a secret from everyone? Run!
There is a distinct difference between privacy and secrecy. Don’t be anyone’s dirty little secret, you deserve so much more, you deserve a partner that can boldly take you out and proudly say you are their significant other.
THEY TREAT OTHERS POORLY
There is this saying that the way a man treats others lower in status than him is the way he truly behaves. A person that’s rude to a server, or a waiter, or a doorman will treat you the exact same way sooner than later, and you don’t want that.
THEY ALWAYS HAVE NEGATIVE THINGS TO SAY ABOUT EVERYTHING
We get it, you are having a bad day, but is that really a good enough excuse to bad mouth everything and everyone? No it’s not,you need to take a chill pill.
Why would you want to be with someone who only has negative things to say about everything and everyone? Sooner or later they will suck all the life and hope out of you, you need to sprint out the door.
THEY PUT YOU DOWN
Now there is no excuse for this, none! Don’t be with someone who calls you ugly, fat, immature, stupid etc just don’t.
You are so much more than that. You are beautiful/handsome, you are smart, you are special, period. If your significant other takes pleasure in putting you down, please leave before they beat your self-confidence down to zero level.
THEY ALWAYS SEEM TO BE HAVING A BAD DAY
Do we know this guy? Yes we do! The guy who never seems to have a good day, the one always throwing things, and yelling,and cursing and complaining and making you feel terrible. Yes we know him and call him by his name(grinch). We all have a bad day sometimes, I know I do. But that doesn’t mean we should ruin everyone else’s day. This guy here refuses to be happy and refuses to allow anyone else be happy, drop him.
THEY HAVE DOUBLE STANDARDS
Or you could say they are two-faced. This guy here is the guy who will tell you not to go to a bar and then goes to one. They have rules that applies to others but not to them.
THEY DO NOT RESPECT YOU
Now this should be a deal breaker in any relationship, how can you be with someone who doesn’t respect you? Answer is you don’t. You leave them. You leave that man who calls you stupid and embarrasses you in front of others.
THEY ABUSE YOU VERBALLY
Need I say more?
THEY ARE SECRETIVE
A secretive person, could have a whole other life you know nothing about. A bit of mystery is okay, but secrets are never okay.
THEY HAVE EXCUSES FOR EVERYTHING
We have a name for this dude right here it’s called a pathological liar, a person who seems to never run out of excuses and reasons for why they do the things they do.
THEY THINK THEY ARE GOD’S GIFT TO WOMEN
Seriously, there are guys who think they are doing you a favour by being with you. One said to me one time there is plenty of fish in the ocean and I was like okay?? This kind of guys need to be avoided at all costs. You just can’t fix this kind of stupid you need to move on!!
THEY NEED CONSTANT REASSURANCE
We are going to call this guy the man-child, or is the needy baby man better? I can’t seem to decide. A man/woman who needs you to reassure them every time shouldn’t be in your life. What is this? kindergarten?
THEY HAVE “ISSUES”
Oh this kind of men…..
Their issues could be anything:
- committment phobia
- Ex cheated on them
- Mama’s boys.
These kind of men need to be avoided like a plague they need a psychiatrist not a girlfriend.
THEY YELL AT YOU
No, no,love you need to get out!
THEY DO NOTHING FOR YOU
We are not asking for a house or a Porsche (we are not gold diggers) but a man need to be able to do something for his girl. Take her out on a date or buy her flowers (I love flowers) I don’t know why i wrote that but… you get my point.
THEY FLIRT WITH OTHER PEOPLE WHILE YOU ARE THERE
Again this goes back to respect, a man who disrespects you enough to flirt with other girls in front of you? Say bye-bye.
I hope you found one or two things in this list that speaks to you,